That's right, you heard me...Women should quit, completely, utterly and without exception having sex before marriage. I know this might come as a radical idea but please, let me state my case.
Having sex before marriage hurts women on so many levels. First of all, you have the tried and true risk of pregnancy and disease. The arguments for this are pretty obvious, if you don't have sex before marriage you will not have an illegitimate child, or acquire a disease...pretty basic and straightforward. However, have you ever realized that having sex before marriage is like a lose lose proposition for women? What do you get out of it? If you don't like the guy after having sex with him then, at the very least, you have just wasted yourself and put yourself at risk for pregnancy and disease. At the worst, you are stuck in a deeper relationship than you want and become pregnant and diseased. However, if you do fall in love with the guy and he doesn't respond in kind then you are left with a broken heart. And, broken hearts seem to be the ailment du jour. We are a broken-hearted people. By not having sex before marriage you avoid all of these uncomfortable scenarios. There is no downside to waiting, to waiting until you have a commitment in marriage, until you have devotion and until you know him better. I wish someone had told me this when I was a young woman.
In addition, if the entire feminine population did this, we could change the world. Men would have to actually court us, they would have to make an effort to win us over ...otherwise they are stuck forever waiting, waiting, waiting for sex. We would not have any children born out of wedlock (in a perfect scenario...stay with me now), men would have greater respect for women, rising to a goddess-like status (ok I got a little out of hand with that one). Moreover, the whole experiment would foster closer marriages thereby decreasing the occurrence of divorce. It would be a win win situation and it could change the world.
Unfortunately the trend seems to be going in the exact opposite direction. In this age of birth control, abortion on demand and lackadaisical attitudes towards sex, we no longer seem to have any moral compass at all when it comes to chastity. The very word reeks of the Victorian age. But the problem as I see it is that we have lost all wonder when it comes to passion and love-making. No longer is romance a part of the equation and marriage itself seems to be just another rite of passage, like getting a drivers license or something. I really think that the key to all of this is in the hands of women, we are the ones who could completely turn this around and make the world a better place. A place where romance, love, intimacy and passion are rampant and replace the uglier words of illegitimacy, disease, divorce, pornography and loneliness.
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