Beware the Best Girl Friend

Every relationship is full of traps and pitfalls, and the ones that most often persevere are the ones that feature open communication and an absence of secrets.

Oh yeah… it also helps if the guy doesn’t have a best girl friend, who very well may be lying in the weeds, just waiting for your relationship to falter.

Although almost no one ever agrees with me when I say this, I maintain that it’s nearly impossible for guys and girls to be very close friends without sex getting in the way at some point.

Obviously, there are exceptions to this, such as if significant others are involved and all three or four people are friends, or if the guy or girl is hideously unattractive.

But generally speaking, sex always gets in the way. In my life, I have three very good girl friends, and I’ve hooked up with all of them at one point or another. I believe the only way we’ve been able to maintain these friendships is that we found a way to long ago release the sexual tensions between us and move past that. But believe you me, despite the fact that my physical relationships with these girls had long since ceased, my old girlfriend was forever wary of my friends.

And when I think about it, it makes sense. From a boyfriend’s perspective, you almost always like your best friend more than your girlfriend. You don’t have to deal with the arguments, with the issues, with the “I look waaay too fat to go out tonight’s.”

Instead, you just get the laughs and good times without having to deal with all the excess sh*t that comes with a serious relationship. Moreover, when a guy fights with his girlfriend, the female best friend is the person he’s immediately going to turn to.

After a while, that becomes attractive to a guy. He looks at all the good times he has with his friend, and then begins to compare them with the rough patches that appear in his relationship, regardless of how solid his relationship actually is. If you compound that with any sort of attraction to the friend, well, then the relationship’s headed for trouble. And if you’re looking for a sign, take note of not only how many times he brings his best girl friend, but also how often he lets you know that you have nothing to worry about. These statements are pretty much directly proportionate to how much he’s thinking about her, and how interested he is. Guys don’t even bother denying if they have nothing to hide.

I’m not saying that you automatically have to hate and scorn your boyfriend’s best girl friend. You don’t want to be the jealous girlfriend who precipitates your relationship’s downfall. But do be wary. The female best friend is uniquely able to position herself just so to be there when a guy in a relationship needs her. And you don’t want to be the girl who’s so incredibly trusting of your guy and his best friend that you suddenly find yourself as the one outside of the relationship.