HOW TO LEAVE A CHEATING SPOUSE

Is your spouse cheating ... are you afraid he/she will leave ... has your spouse admitted to an affair? How do you leave with dignity? What do you do if he/she says one day "I don't love you anymore?"

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   Step 1
   Plan your steps one by one save money ... always have a bank account to fall back on.
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   Step 2
   Get legal advice promptly you initiate and file the separation/divorce papers.
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   Step 3
   Protect your kids they are your most important asset fight for the money to support them efficiently.
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   Step 4
   If your cheating spouse (once found out) decides to up and leave "don't shed a tear" atleast not in front of him/her don't ever give them that satisfaction of knowing just how bad they are tearing your world apart.I am speaking from having lived through a divorce years back although i am no advocate for getting a divorce unless there is some type of abuse involved i think at times there is nothing else you can do but to let them leave if they choose.This can become quite complicated when children are involved i actually had to get my ex's permission to leave the state we were living in at the time even though he had basically left us and of course i wasn't from there and had no family up there and no means of support but luckily his focus was on his new relationship so he did give his permission for me to take our kids out of state.This is something i would really think about before getting married and having children because the bottom line is if i had not had his approval to leave the state even though he was the cheater and the one who had basically abandoned his family i would have gotton in trouble and had to bring the kids back.
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   Step 5
   Always but always take things that are valuable to you when you leave the marriage for good such as photos, bibles etc ... anything near to your heart. Don't trust that he will send them. Once another man/woman moves in which will more than likely happen he/she may destroy your cherished momentous just out of spite ... trust me i know this first hand..which will obviously prevent your ex from sending these things to you.
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   Step 6
   Don't run after your husband/wife once you suspect an affair ... you deserve more. Take time to set up your game plan and when the time is right you can depart the marriage with dignity and knowing you did everything that you needed to do to prepare for life without your spouse.Don't ever allow yourself to depend on anyone 100% you must depend on yourself from day one of your marriage that way if an affair or something happens and for whatever reason your spouse doesn't want to be married anymore you have that back up savings and a means of supporting yourself and your children if you have them.
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   Step 7
   Cry it out on a pillow of course but never in front of the cheating husband/wife.Grief for the loss of your relationship but don't torture yourself over a prolonged period of time with the many whys we all like to ask. Allow yourself to be sad but at the same time pick yourself back up...dust yourself off and go out and get all the great things that you deserve which are undoutably coming your way.